“Marriages don’t succeed automatically. Those who build happy, secure, successful marriages pay the price to do so. They work at it constantly…”
One of my fondest memories of my parents is how they prioritized one another, and devoted quality time to their marriage.
Every Friday night my parents would have their date night. Us kids usually had a pizza, and we were responsible to take care of our younger siblings, as well as survive our older ones! These date nights have become a family tradition we continue; to date our spouse weekly, which my husband and I relish in, as we are rejuvenated during this short, inexpensive, therapy session together.
Each week as our parents would get away for just a few hours to talk about life, work, children, stresses, and so forth. I remember knowing that my parents didn’t only love each other….they REALLY liked each other above anyone else. I remember my dad saying he loved us, but he loved mom the most! I remember the security I felt, knowing they were building our family fortress on the solid ground of a deep rooted marriage.
Let me state the obvious and say that no marriage is without struggles, just as not one of us is without trials. I have seen in my own marriage, that with a loving and forgiving spouse who helps me clearly see my strengths and my weaknesses; I have more opportunities to learn, forgive, love and grow then I would on my own, without my family, loving and guiding me through this journey of life. Growing does not come without growing pains. However, it is up to each of us individually to decide if that pain is an opportunity to become a rose or a thorn in our marriage.
“As important as it is to be with the children as a family, you need regular weekly time alone together. Scheduling it will let your children know that you feel that your marriage is so important that you need to nurture it. That takes commitment, planning and scheduling,” said Joe J. Christensen. “If marriage is a prime relationship in life, it deserves prime time!” In the enriching of marriage, the big things are the little things.
Spencer Kimball stated, “Every divorce is the result of selfishness on the part of one or the other or both parties to a marriage contract. A marriage may not always be even incidentless, but it can be one of great peace. A couple may have poverty, illness, disappointment, failures, and even death in the family, but even these will not rob them of their peace. The marriage can be a successful one so long as selfishness does not enter in.
We are blessed with freedom to choose the one we love, then we must love the one we chose! I invite you to evaluate your role and accountability in your marriage and find an area that you would like to better show up in your marriage this week. I promise doing so will bless your family.
In faith and love,